Now that you have completed checking either "Yes" or "No" advance to the
next step. Starting with the Positive Emotion column; immediately opposite
the "No" column are corresponding numbers. Do not use the "No"
column. Using only the "Yes" column for the Positive Emotions, for each
"Yes" checked, circle the number corresponding to the checked "Yes". Once
you have completed circling the corresponding numbers, add the circled
numbers and place the answer beside the Positive Emotion Total. (i.e. the
maximum total cannot total more then +55).
When you have added the Positive Emotion column, repeat the same process
with the Negative Emotion column; this time circling the corresponding
number opposite the checked "No" responses. Do not use the "Yes" column.
Once again total the number and place the answer opposite the Negative
Emotion Total. (i.e. remember the total cannot exceed -55)
You should now have two calculated answers, one positive and one negative.
One further step is to have totals which are no higher than ten (10). For
example, let us presume after totaling the corresponding numbers in the
Positive Emotion column the total was +48. The number +48 is higher then
ten. To reduce the number to ten, simply add the 4 and the 8 together which
totals 12 (4+8=12). The total is still higher then 10. To reduce the total
of 12 to 10 or lower, simply add the 1 plus the 2 which totals +3(1+2=3).
Repeat the same exercise for the Negative Emotion column. When finished,
you should have two totals which are no higher then ten (10).
After arriving at both totals, add the Negative Emotion Total to the Positive
Emotion Total which will give you a third number which is the Corrective
Emotion. Let us presume that the Positive Emotion Total adds up to plus
four (+4) and the Negative Emotion Total totals minus six (-6). By adding
the Negative Emotion Total to the Positive Emotion Total, the Corrective
Emotion Total's answer would be minus two (-2). The process described above
is simple high school algebra and should not present any problems in calculating
the end-result.
To discover which emotions you are experiencing simply check the answer
corresponding to the emotion listed opposite the Total answers. For instance
the Positive Emotion Total number in the example above was plus four (+4).
The corresponding emotion to that number is Freedom. The participant was
trying therefore to feel independent for the decision.
The Negative Emotion Total number was minus six (-6). The corresponding
emotion for the number is Envy. In the example above Envy was the negative
emotion that the person was experiencing. The emotion Envy inadvertently
was stopping the participant from making the choice.
The Corrective Emotion Total number was minus two (-2). Again using the
example above; the emotion which would be necessary to correct the problem
or which would enhance the participant's ability to make a decision based
on independence was Apathy. If the participant would not be so insensitive,
the participant would reach a successful result from his decision.
For more in-depth explanations of the emotions finalized in the exercise,
check the corresponding descriptions of the emotions in the previous chapter.
As you read the descriptions, keep your original question in mind and try
to relate the descriptions to your question.
After practicing the procedure a few times it should not take any longer
than one or two minutes to reach your conclusions. The more often you practice
the exercise the more apprehensible you gain of your innermost feelings.
You may also apply the "21 Emotions Exercise" formulae to practical applications
such as; seeking employment. During the course of changing occupations,
one of the premier factors in obtaining the position is the personal interview
portion. If you find yourself in a position of seeking employment, slightly
prior to commencing the interview go through the exercise to discover which
emotions need to be corrected before entering into the office of the interviewer.
Remember we are all susceptible to negative emotions from one another.
Simply ask yourself how you feel about the interview and complete the exercise
based on that question. Next repeat the exercise but this time the question
to ask is what do you think the interviewer will think of you. Pretend
that you are the interviewer. Once you have completed the exercise for
both questions and have obtained two corrective emotional end-results,
simply add the two Corrective Emotion Totals together to obtain a third
Corrective Emotion Total and express the added Corrective Emotion during
the interview. Would you not say the decision of the interviewer is based
on how he or she feels about you? If you are presenting a negative picture
to the interviewer without even being aware that you are, most assuredly
you can then gather that it would be best to know your emotions first and
secondly what you intuit how the interviewer feels about you. In other
words what you are actually accomplishing is that you are psychically reading
the probable emotions of your interviewer and matching the interviewers
reactive emotions to your own. Once knowledge of emotions is accomplished,
your internal emotions which you have suppressed or negated will be placed
aside if they are of a negative nature and the positive emotions which
are mandatory in obtaining the position will be enhanced.
The above example can be used under any circumstance dealing with people.
Simply complete the exercise for yourself and for the other person who
you may be communicating with and add the two Corrective Emotion Totals
together.
Now that you have mastered the "21 Emotions Exercise" the next stage is
to learn precisely how to use the exercise daily. The results will prove
fascinating.
The first question that I'm sure you have on your mind is now that you
understand how the mechanics of the exercise work, how do you use it effectively?
Quite simply while you are doing the exercise make sure that your question
is specific. As you hold your question in your mind also ask yourself if
you should answer with a specific alternative. As an example; if your question
is, "Should I sell my house?" then also ask yourself, "Should I sell my
house with a "yes"? Remember that you are intuitively already receiving
an answer but you may not be heeding your intuition and therefore the exercise
will confirm your thoughts. At issue with the example question is that
the thought about selling your house would never have come to your attention
if you had not already thought about it. Then if you discover that your
corrective emotion is plus one (+1) or higher then your answer for the
question that you are debating should be a "yes". If your corrective emotion
is minus one (-1) or lower then your answer should be a "no".
Although it has been mentioned that if your corrective emotion ends up
to be Pride or Proud then you are procrastinating and you should make up
your mind as quickly as possible, there is one caveat to this situation.
During a specific question if your results end up to be plus or minus zero
(+0-) it would be a good idea to get all your facts together first before
you decide what to do.
The users of the exercise have ascertained a number of uses for the exercise.
The main use of the exercise has been accurately making distinct decisions.
The fundamental use or the design of the exercise was precisely for the
decision making objective. Intuiting decisions for some had been quite
difficult until the exercise was introduced. Trying to make decisions under
pressure of an occupation or a relationship specifically when you are under
immense stress creates many problems.
Usually one of the first difficulties of making a correct decision under
a group participation environment was eliminating the other participants'
negative feelings, but more climacteric was discerning what all parties
were experiencing emotionally. The simple solution to this problem was
discovered after the exercise was designed. Simply, all one had to do was
implement the exercise for all those party to the final result.
As an example presume the problem stemmed from a potentially failing relationship.
All you have to do is complete the exercise for yourself and then with
as little bias as possible complete the exercise for the other party. Upon
completing the exercise for both parties and ending up with two Corrective
Emotion Totals, then adding the totals to end with one Corrective Emotion,
you will find whatever the Corrective Emotion is and, upon implementing
the corrective emotion during the exact moment the event takes place, you
will find that the end-result will always prove positive.
The combination exercise procedure can be used for any circumstance. If
by chance the other people involved in the decision are familiar with the
exercise and actually complete the exercise for themselves, the results
will actually be extremely helpful to all those concerned.
A major food distributor in Canada has been using the exercise for their
sales staff. Each and every morning the employees complete the exercise.
The management, using the completed results, calculates the mean emotional
Corrective Emotion and has found that the sales results for the day corresponded
to the level of response. Inevitably if the end-result was in the positive
emotion section the sales figures showed an increase in productivity. On
the other hand if the end-result was in the negative emotion position the
sales figure showed a decline in projected sales.
Furthermore what also was discovered was that once the employees utilized
the exercise over a period of time, those who showed a positive corrective
emotion end-result were the leaders for the day, while those who showed
a negative corrective end-result were the ones who did not perform. It
was further discovered that the range of performance also was attributed
to the position of each corrective emotion end-result. As an example we
are all now aware that each emotion has a mathematical connotation. The
further up the scale the participant was (in either direction) the more
pronounced the final results were.
The best part of using the exercise for this particular company was as
time progressed a more harmonious balance developed in the company. While
there are still those operating in a negative mode, the employees who showed
positive corrective end-results stimulated those with negative corrective
results by encouraging them to reverse their negative positions. By so
doing the company has recorded substantially higher year-end sales figures
than projected. The company, who previously had a high turnover of staff
has now found their employees have no wish to seek other positions outside
the company mainly because of the positive emotional working conditions.
On a more personal basis, information has been received that a number of
people have found using the exercise has eliminated the problem of choosing
a mate or a business partner. Solely by using the exercise prior to making
a choice between one or more people, it was discovered upon completing
the exercise for both parties, if the corrective emotion was positive the
result was also positive. If on the other hand the result was a negative
corrective emotion, the participants chose not to partake in whichever
endeavor they were considering. Some participants who completed the exercise
and heeded the end-results felt that the decision they arrived at, such
as in which direction they should go, was one they would not have made
on their own, but probably would have been made at a later date when all
the facts were known. Ironically had they not completed the exercise they
felt that they could have made a mistake and followed through to a negative
relationship. Some participants felt that using the exercise reduced the
needless waste of time discovering they had made an incorrect choice. There
were although, some who did not heed the exercise end-result and found
that the relationship they began, faltered.
Over a period of time an interesting observation was made. By calculating
the exercise daily and keeping a graph (see below) of the end-results
a number of people discovered an accurate bio-rhythm analysis had been
calculated. During the high positive emotion period on their graph they
found their personal performance capabilities were at their highest. Or
in other words when the graph showed a high positive emotion arc they felt
their personal endeavors were also quite satisfactory. On the other hand
when the graph indicated a high negative arc the stress experienced was
substantial.
After a number of months of activity calculating the exercise daily it
was also ascertained over a period of time that they became more aware
of their personal emotions and were less likely to be contaminated by psychological
traps.
There are numbers of other uses for the exercise and the only limitation
is one's lack of imagination. As mentioned previously life is not fatalistic,
but in the next chapter we will discover we are all born with a specific
genetic emotion which will govern our life prior to the moment of birth
and will plague us until our death. The next segment is extremely significant.
There are many times when we all find ourselves slightly overcome with
negative events. Negative events are attractive to us by our lack of knowledge
of the events and the effect our subconscious personality has on our future
power of choice and existence.
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